My Love Story
I always knew, deep in my soul, that I was meant for a great love.
It definitely wasn’t an easy journey…
I found myself at age 27 - two years into a relationship - looking ahead and seeing a great emptiness where our potential future together lived. So I did the hard thing - I ended the relationship and threw myself into the “unknown.” The hope for a greater relationship - my life's true love.
Little did I know, I was embarking on six years of being single and actively dating before meeting my husband.
Those six years were some of the hardest of my life - I put so much pressure on myself to date that I viewed each week without finding someone worth my time as another failure.
By Saturday nights, my friends could find me crying in the bar bathroom that I was going to be single forever.
I yearned to find a partner who would commit to me and prioritize me, and time after time, no luck.
It took a lot of reflection
Sure, I could blame it all on the men I was trying to pursue, and I often did. I have countless horror stories, as many single women do.
But placing all the blame elsewhere wouldn't grant me the opportunity to look at my role in the dating process.
My mindset toggled between hopeful and hopeless, positive and jaded.
I could have used a true guide, or a coach, to stand by my side during those moments. I wish I had someone to teach me earlier what “anxious attachment” meant - because when I finally learned, years into my dating adventures, why I behaved the way I did, my experiences made so much more sense.
I felt understood. And I was finally equipped with some knowledge about how to work with my style, not against it.
My hope as a dating coach is to offer the reflection, encouragement and support that I needed at that time.
I finally realized…I can’t do this on my own
Dating just wasn’t working for me.
I was wasting so much time and experiencing so much heartbreak on the wrong men.
So I found a dating coach online and watched hours and hours of her videos that taught me how to date in a healthy, conscious way. At the time, these seemed like radical concepts because I had NEVER heard them before.
I knew I needed to massively shift something in myself to find the love I was seeking
So I made a decision - for myself - that I would find a partner who prioritized me that I could build a healthy and lasting relationship with.
I committed to my intention and changed my standards for the relationships I would attract into my life.
Five weeks later…I met my husband!
He was different. In all the right ways.
He communicated clearly and frequently.
He set up thoughtful dates and prioritized my time.
He wanted to get to know the parts of me that I kept under wraps with my other dates - my mental health, my core values, my dreams and fears.
He valued growth and communication to the same level that I did.
He showed up with consistent words and actions, over and over again.
My mind was blown.
Falling in love was the easy part
With him, it was easy to trust, easy to be vulnerable, easy to see a future together.
He spent quality time with me (my love language). We had so many deep conversations and fun experiences.
When disagreements arose, we figured out a way to work through them, knowing that we’re on the same team.
As our relationship deepened, I got to experience the quality of love that I had always dreamed of.
We got married in 2022 and have been growing with each other ever since.
My personal experience, combined with my professional coaching expertise, enables me to help women through their own dating transformations.
I am an Associate Certified Coach through the International Coach Federation. I completed my coach training in 2015 after feeling that spark that coaching is what I'm meant to do in this life.
With a degree in Human & Organizational Development from Vanderbilt University, my career has a throughline of people and their development. I believe self-discovery is the greatest gift you can give yourself.